On off days when you don’t make a lift, you don’t blame the bar. You look at the factors you can control. You look at the actual mechanics of that lift. Was the bar in the correct position to travel in the most vertical path? The difference of a fraction of an inch in positioning can have a huge effect on the ease with which the bar moves. Other factors also can have a significant impact on your ability to make a lift. Sleep, fuel, recovery, and stress levels are among the other more subtle and less predictable pieces of the overall equation. Sometimes the effects of inadequate sleep are profound; other times adrenaline might make up the difference. So you might resolve to practice better self-care, to pay more attention to recovery. You focus on what you can control, because you cannot change the bar.
What if we approached the difficult people in our lives this way? What if we accepted that we cannot change others, even with our best arguments and persuasions, even when we’re sure we’re right and that they must be stupid? What if we accepted that we can only change ourselves, and that those around us will change only by their own volition? Instead of a ridiculous and pointless argument, a more effective use of our energy, one that will ultimately strength us, is to identify the pieces we can control, to strategize for a better outcome, and take responsibility for improving what we can ~ even if that process begins by visualizing the difficult people in our lives as intractable pieces of iron. 😉