I’ve written along these lines before but under different circumstances. It starts with a basic observation of mine that in the weight room the strongest people I know rarely talk about how much weight they can move. They never brag or self-promote or use their strength to tear others down. The people I’ve met in the weight room who have incredible strength are humble and supportive and encouraging.
I train with men as well as women. At Fivex3 Training, there is one small bathroom; there is no locker room. Sometimes our language is raw: “I did split squats the other day, and my ass is killing me!” or after getting a heavy rep, you might hear “fuck yeah!” But there is no “locker room talk”. Nothing is said that would demean another trainee: male or female, twenty or seventy, republican or democrat.
Instead we have training room talk. We move metric shitloads of iron in the space of a few seconds, and then we have the conversations of people who have real strength, the strength to put aside their own egos to encourage and support another person. Developing our strength as individuals does not come at the expense of another; it is not achieved by mining someone else’s self-confidence or security. We are all on a mutual quest to be better and stronger than yesterday. And we respect that process in each other.
I think we could all use more examples of training room talk.